Get yourself a cup of coffee too. I am about to explain to you something that might enhance your Second Life Sex life.

Those of you who are into role-play most likely know what I mean by „ emote“. This article is for those relatively new to Second Life, or for those who are new in role-play.

Did you ever wonder what „emoting“ actually is?

Basically, it means describing with words what your role-play character is doing and most importantly how he/she is doing what he/she is doing. It is an important element in role-play.

It complements the graphics, animations, and speech, making the entire scene more „real“ and much more detailed.

The technique was originally used in typical character role-play such as Gor, Vampires or Urban role-play.

Today it is also used in sexual encounters and makes the difference between realistic, erotic sex play and watching „pixel porn“.

Let’s face it: watching two avatars fuck will eventually get very boring but sexual interaction with emotes and sex -talk is every time a new experience. It’s the closest you can get to real sex in a virtual world.

It is using your imagination together with the animations to interact with your partner in order to arouse him/her. If you are good at it, you might not even need the animations!

How Does Emoting in Role-Play Work?

First, let’s look at the technical aspect of it. If you type “/me” in the chat window of the Second Life viewer, everything you type in that post will be formatted differently. The colon after your user name will be removed and the text will appear in italic.

So instead of this:

Caroline Resident: Hey is there anybody in this room?

it will look like this:

Caroline Resident looks around to see if anybody is in the room

You can see the difference.

This is done to distinguish an emote visually from regular speech. Hence if your character (or you by that means) is saying something you use the normal chat and obviously you talk in the first person.

An emote, however, is always written in third person, which separates it even better from speech. Experienced role-players actually combine emoting with speech, which would look like this:

Caroline Resident looks around in the room she just entered and says: “Hello is there anybody in here?”

I am sure you can imagine how this adds to the quality and the realism of a role-play situation or … virtual sex. I will illustrate this with an example.

Practical Emote Examples

In the following pictures, you see me having sex. Under the pictures, you can read the corresponding emotes and sex talk.

Emoting During a Blowjob Scene

Emoting During a  Blowjob Scene
Emoting During a Blowjob Scene

Caroline Takeda goes down on him, takes his cock in her mouth, and lets her tongue slide over its tip in a circular motion, starts sucking on this hard cock, with her lips enclosing it firmly, and her hand slides up and down on his inner legs at the same time.

Emoting in a Riding Scene

Emoting in a Riding Scene
Emoting in a Riding SceneEmoting in a Riding Scene

Caroline Takeda lets up from his cock and starts slowly but surely, sliding with her tits upon his body sits on his lap, and places the tip of the cock on the entrance of her pussy, then sinks down on him letting him penetrate slowly into her warm and wet pussy, moans as she feels him getting into her. Starts moving fast forwards and backward in circles, feels her clit on his skin, and moans out loudly at every move she makes on him

Emoting in a Getting Fucked Scene

Emoting in a Getting Fucked Scene
Emoting in a Getting Fucked Scene

Caroline Takeda lays on her back and spreads her legs wide for him. She moans out loud as he enters her wet pussy deep and hard and shouts out: “Yes, fuck me, use me.”

Caroline Resident moves her hips in circles whilst he thrust into her, then shouts: “fuck me!” Looks down at her body, shivering watching him thrust in and out

Best Practice for Emoting in Virtual Sex Play

Thought Emotes

Don’t ever emote what you think. This is a bad role-play style. People can not read thoughts in real life either. So how would one react to something you or your character thinks, without you actually communicating your thoughts?

An example:

Caroline Takeda thinks the guy is really good-looking.

Did I make a compliment here? No! I thought about something and my opponent has no chance to react to this, as we assume his character can not read my thoughts.

Better:

Caroline Takeda looks at the guy with a cheeky smile on her face, her eyes cruise over his sexy body and she says with a vicious tone in her voice: “Hey, what a sexy body you´ve got”

I am sure you noticed the difference 🙂

Godmoding

Another common mistake in emoting is to anticipate your partner’s actions. Don’t do it for them. Let your partner decide what to do next and how to react to your actions. This is especially important in combat scenes.

All too often people emote an opponent to fall down or to lose consciousness and the like. This is an absolute no-no and is called “godmoding”. It is dictating the outcome of an attack without giving the other party a chance to react.

In sex play, this seems not as important but can be annoying too. Especially when Godmoding body reactions. Bear in mind, that you can not control the physical reactions of another person.

Last but not least:

Mixing In-Character and Out-Of-Character

Keep comments about real-life stuff within reason. So-called OOC (out of character) comments may disturb the immersion of other players and in sex, it might even kill the entire thing. If there is something you need to or want to say in OOC, put it in brackets, so it’s clear to everybody involved that ist OOC

In sex play this could be things like:

((Caroline Takeda: This scene really arouse me))

A typical one towards the end of a sexual encounter is:

((CD: Can not type anymore I need my hand for something else))

Oh, and never ever offer pics of your real-life cock. This might end the encounter there and then. Keep it In-World and immerse into erotic virtual fun!

Want to practice with me?

You can hire me for sex lessons and practice. Simply look me up and send an IM.

Caroline

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  • July 2, 2021

    It was my wife\’s idea to do a gender swap role play. I\’d never done anything like that. She bought the clothing for us and helped me get into the mood of being a girl by curling my hair and doing eye makeup and lip gloss on me along with girlie cologne. Then she dressed me and sent me out to the kitchen to make dinner. When she came out I hardly recognized her. Slacks, dress shirt, tie and sport coat: she looked like a man.

    As far as the sex went, I had no trouble continuing the role of being a girl. I just went along with whatever she wanted to me. It was a lot of work but it was fun.

  • December 5, 2020

    Excellent advice. The reference to godmoding is especially helpful. It\’s tempting sometimes to want to express a desired outcome, but it\’s both unfair to your partner and probably confusing, since your partner is probably about to write something completely different. (Been there, done that.)
    Thanks for another great blog.

    • December 7, 2020

      Thank you.
      What also is sometimes weird, when your partner describes not only the outcome, but what exactly you are doing.

      Carol

  • April 29, 2020

    While I\’m not a Second Life player, I\’m over on 3dxchat, I loved you article and found it helpful. I work as an escort over on 3dxchat and have been using emotes during sex for a while. If you\’re ever on 3dxchat maybe look me up 😉

  • April 27, 2020

    I noticed the man in your photo has a wedding ring on. Is that your hubby?

  • May 11, 2015

    I’m very interested in this but find some of your writing in the example a bit confusing Your partner is not doing it correctly by being in the first person .Is that the point? and y ou are basically describing what these avs are doing.OK i’ll try it Enjoy your blog

  • April 9, 2015

    sounds like 50 shades wanna be writing. that’s my problem i want to write something original, but it like the above post all seem just typical

    • April 9, 2015

      Selena

      you don’t want to win a puplizer price, you want to make sure you and your partner have fun 🙂

      Carol

    • May 3, 2020

      50 Shades was/is very popular…so maybe writing like that ain’t a bad thing?

  • September 29, 2014

    Thats what i mean. Im german too. In english its much easier to use certain expressions 😉
    Keep up the great work, Caroline. Your blog is very interesting!

  • September 29, 2014

    Gerry

    in German it would something like this:

    “Ich fick dich durch du versaute Schlampe”

    Just try saying it loud! I am German and even to me it sounds weird.

    /me laughs

  • September 28, 2014

    I totally agree with you, Caroline. Sex is the main subject in SL (yes it is) and can be very arousing or even boring.
    The chat is what its all about and it took me some time to get used to it. You have to learn it, getting better and better.
    Especially for the men its important to let your opposite feel comfy. Typing “lemme fuck your ass” might destroy the whole atmosphere immediately. Just like in RL beeing sensitive and restrained is always a good start. Watch your opposites reactions. How far does she goe? Adapt her behaviour. But after a while during the action you can grope to the special locations of your opposite. Maybe at the second or third sex date. But always make sure you never ask too much of somebody.

    RL content is also very special. Most of the girls i met are typing like “im stroking myself right now. im so wet.” True or not, its not only a boys thing. At the very first time i read that in chat i was perplexed. But it was arousing me since she was describing very intimate details. I realized that im “facing” a sex addicted girl (in real). It got hotter each day. The dream of every man came true…

    Btw. all of my SL friends are americans. Accident? At least it let me keep some kind of distance, not to chat in my native language.
    I would never be able to talk dirty in german…

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