When I embarked on my under cover mission to investigate the escort scene in Second Life, I asked asked myself the question, why do men use escort girls when there are so many opportunities to have virtual sex available for free. Hence the reason I decided to become an escort girl in order to get first hand experiences (pun intended).
My initial approach was to try as a freelance escort girl, trying to find clients on all kind of venues. This approach failed miserably and I came to the conclusion (admittedly a bit preempted) that is actually not much if any demand for escort girls. At least not enough to make a decent money for Second Life standards.
Then I met the girls at the Magic Dream Angels. They were actually building, running and promoting a classy and friendly escort club. With their permission. I agreed with them to work with them fully disclosing my intention to write about it on Second Life Adventures.
Everything was different then. I found out that having an attractive location and a welcoming environment is key to success in the sex business in Second Life. It does actually work. Within a short period of time I made somewhere in the region of 10.000 L$, a good income compared with other jobs available in Second Life.
This experience also answered my all important initial question: Why do men use escort girls in Second Life?
The following list I compelled, based on the my own experience as an escort girl and might not be complete nor is it representative for all escort establishments.
Because of availability
Sometimes men (and women for that matter) are just horny. They are in the mood and want it there and then. Especially when they don’t have much time online, they don’t want to go through all the motions of flirting, chatting up, dancing and seducing a „normal“ girl. An escort girl is available, all it takes is pay her and have fun.
Because of quality Sex
At most of the free sex places, there is no such thing as quality role-play. All you can do is hop on a poseball and watch two avatars doing pixel sex – not everybody´s cup of tea as it does not „feel“ like having sex. Its just cheap pixel porn.
A good escort girl however, knows what is important to give the client the impression of actually having sex, how to turn him on, arouse him in real to the point him actually having bliss, excitement and even an orgasm in real.
Not all escort girls are that good. In fact many just take the money and get it done as quick as possible with the least possible effort – a disappointing experience for the client and a “never-come-back-client” for the escort girl – understandably.
Because of their girl friends
Some clients do actually have a SL partner. That sounds weird at first, but it isn’t at all. I have had clients in a stable relationship over years, but their partners are not much into virtual sex. Those men still love their girl friends and have no intention to break up the relationship, but for the sexual part they go to a discrete escort girl – no strings, no commitment, no drama. Using an escort services does not feel like cheating on their girl friend to them, as would be having an affair or chatting up girls at the usual date & dance places.
Because they can
Some clients make serious money in Second Life (for Second Life standards). They spend a lot of time in Second Life with their business. Creating things, customer support, promotion – such things take up time and there is not much In-World time left to go dating. Those guys simply go to a club to have some uncomplicated fun and as they can easily afford our rates, they don´t mind letting us participate on their Second Life success.
People enjoy being a part of something. We do actually have a number of regular clients who book us to support the idea of a welcoming, classy club. A place were people are greeted as friends, where we have fun at parties and were the girls are not greedy bitches but enjoyable company.
Those clients don´t even see it as paying for sex, they see it as financial support to a place they like, people they enjoy being with and sex is an added, yet well appreciated bonus. Those are actually the best clients, simply because they treat us well, come on a regular basis and don´t complain about prices. We even have one guy with a “flatrate”. He actually finances a big part of the tier fees. One monthly payment and he can have fun with us as as often as he likes (or as often as he can) – a true win win situation and a “friend of the house”.
To learn how to do it properly
Yes, that happens too. I got booked to teach how to have sex in Second Life – properly. These men simply want to be well prepared before meeting a regular girl (or even their Second Life partner) before taking a girl to bed, prepared to impress, prepared not to spoil it. I actually think this one is a very good reason to use an escort girls services: Lessons in Love, so to speak. Actually I think all Noobs should at least once do that, if only they could afford it.
Because they want to try something different
Threesomes, lesbian shows, BDSM, rape scenarios, gang bangs, Master/slave games and so on. Whatever kink it is, one might fancy, its save to try with an escort girl. Escorts get paid to do it and to shut up about it. However, this does not happen often, most clients just want regular sex.
Because they like me
I did have clients who would not go to other escort girls. They simply fancy me, or even have a little crush on me. They don’t mind supporting me with some money in order to be with me.
The reasons why people use escort girls in Second Life do not differ much from the reasons people use them in real life.
I also met some guys who would refuse categorically to have sex with an escort girl. No, its not the fear to catch a virus. In my experience you can categorize those ant-paid-sex guys into four categories:
A: The Broke
He simply doesn’t have SL-money and he admits it. No problem with that, some people simply have chosen not to buy Linden Dollars and do not make money In-World either. I can totally respect that even so I believe someone who refuses to take part in the Second Life economy is not really a Second Life resident. I call them SL-tourists. However, there are some false broke as well. They pretend to be broke, in the hope to get a free pity fuck – how lame is that?
B: The Macho
He is so awesome, so good looking and in his own perception of himself such a desirable man, that he almost believes he should be the one who is supposed to get paid. Using escort services would potentially make his penis shrink.
He is not looking for sex, he is looking for love. He want´s to the be the prince on a white horse who rescues the poor escort girl from her miserable live and be with her in digital eternity. He is inspired by the movie “Pretty Woman” and his attempts to “rescue” the girl are that persistent, that it almost feels like being stalked. I am sure they missed the part in pretty woman, when Richard Gere gave Julia Roberts 3.000 USD for escorting him for a week and a credit card to go shopping on Rodeo drive. Hey, you want to rescue me? Give me 3.000 L$ and lets go shopping at Franks Galleria.
D: The Moralist
Its bad to be a prostitute. We will all burn in hell for having abused the desires, emotions and weaknesses of men to get their money.